Treat Your Body The Way It Deserves To Be Treated, With Kindness
May 12, 2026The way you talk to yourself changes everything
Your inner voice is shaping your mental health every single day. Let’s unpack it.
Meet your inner voice — it’s been running the show
Did you know you have roughly 6,000 thoughts per day? A big chunk of those are about you, your worth, your body, your choices, your failures. That constant narration is your inner voice, and it is incredibly powerful.
The way we speak to ourselves doesn’t just affect how we feel in the moment. It shapes our how we handle situations, our relationships, our confidence, and over time our mental health.
Did you know?
Negative self-talk activates the same stress pathways in the brain as a physical threat meaning your body literally can’t tell the difference.
When we’re harsh with ourselves…
Chronic negative self-talk keeps your nervous system in a low-level state of threat. Over time, this has real consequences that go way beyond just feeling bad:
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Motivation and energy drain away Shame is paralysing. It doesn’t motivate us to do better it makes us want to hide. When we feel bad enough about ourselves, doing anything feels pointless. |
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Anxiety and overwhelm go up Harsh self-criticism keeps your nervous system in fight-or-flight mode, making everything feel harder and more threatening than it is. |
| We start making ourselves smaller We stop taking up space, stop trying new things, and stop asking for what we need because our inner voice has already decided we don’t deserve it. |
Your brain believes what you tell it
Here’s the wild part: your brain doesn’t really distinguish between what’s happening and what you’re vividly imagining or repeating to yourself. When you tell yourself “I’m not good enough” on repeat, your brain starts to treat that as fact and then looks for evidence to confirm it. This is called a cognitive distortion, and it’s incredibly common.
Where does your inner voice come from?
Your self-talk didn’t just appear out of nowhere. It was shaped often without you realising by the world around you. Understanding this is powerful, because it means it was learned. And anything learned can be unlearned. Different factors that influence your inner voice include…
Early childhood
Family & caregivers
The messages we received growing up become the blueprint for how we see ourselves. Praise, criticism, and even silence all leave a mark.
“You could do better.”
“You’re too sensitive.”
These become facts we believe about ourselves.
All around us
🌍 Society & culture
We absorb cultural messages about what we should look like, achieve, and be worth. These ideals become the invisible measuring stick we hold ourselves against and often fall short of.
Productivity culture says rest is laziness. Beauty standards say you’re never quite enough.
Growing up
🧑🤝🧑 Peers & school
Comments from friends, classmates, or teachers during our formative years stick with us long after those people have left our lives often shaping how we perform, connect, and belong.
“You’re not sporty / smart / cool enough.” Sound familiar?
Every single day
📱 Social media
Constant exposure to curated highlight reels trains our brain to compare our everyday reality to others’ best
moments, a guaranteed recipe for feeling “less than.”
You’re not comparing your life to real life. You’re comparing it to a performance.
5 ways to shift your inner voice — starting today
These aren’t about toxic positivity or pretending everything is great. They’re small, real, evidence-based shifts that actually work:
| Catch it before it spiralsYou can’t change a thought you haven’t noticed. Start by simply becoming aware of when your inner critic shows up. No judgment, just notice. |
| Talk to yourself like you’d talk to a friendWould you tell your best friend they’re pathetic for making a mistake? Probably not. Try giving yourself the same grace you give the people you love. |
| Name the voiceGiving your inner critic a silly name creates distance. “There goes Karen again.” It sounds ridiculous but it works. It reminds you that the thought isn’t you. |
| Challenge the thought like a detectiveAsk yourself: “Is this actually true? What’s the real evidence?” Our inner critic exaggerates massively fact-checking it often deflates its power. |
| Build a daily compassion micro-habitEven 60 seconds of intentional self-compassion a hand on your heart, a kind phrase builds new neural pathways over time. It literally rewires your brain. |
This week’s challenge
The mirror challenge 🪞
Every morning this week, look in the mirror and say one kind, true thing about yourself. Not “I’m amazing” just something real and gentle. “I’m trying. I’m showing up. I’m doing my best.”
It will feel awkward. Do it anyway. Share how it goes with us on Instagram, we’d genuinely love to hear!
